Entrepreneurs are usually courageous, confident people, but that doesn’t mean we are filled with confidence every step of the way. As a business coach, I’ve worked with the most brilliant, successful people who feel as though they’re faking their expertise and confidence. This exists on such a large scale that it’s got a name: The Imposter Syndrome.
Why is confidence important?
Some people feel like imposters and walk around in fear of being found out, that they don’t belong. They believe they just got lucky to have as much success as they’ve had. When in this state, it’s impossible to imagine success and to take the next steps with ease. Whereas self-confidence makes it easy for us to visualize success and difficult for us to imagine failure. If you can’t envision your desired outcome, it’s awfully difficult to make it happen.
A strong sense of confidence will positively influence your work, access to happiness, and even your health. A confident disposition is important because of the way it makes us feel and it allows us to live a more joyful, productive life.
Confidence is contagious!
What’s fascinating is that confidence is contagious, and there’s a reason for that—mirror neurons. Have you ever noticed that when you're sitting across from someone, you end up mimicking one another's body position? Mimicking a companion's position, like crossed arms, elbows on the table, and legs crossed are examples of mirror neurons at work Confidence can be mirrored back to us as well. When, for instance, you are confident in a presentation, the audience will subconsciously pick up on that energy and mimic it back to you. If you stumble on your words and your lack of confidence shows, the best you’ll get from your audience is sympathy.
How to tap into your confidence.
You can access your confidence by creating something to anchor it to. Let’s have some fun and create these anchors. We’ll begin with a bit of journaling.
Write down what the opposite of confidence is for you. Some questions you could ask yourself:
- How do I know when I am NOT confident?
- Where in my body do I feel it?
- How does confidence impact my work?
- When I’m not confident how does it influence my overall mood, energy, health?
Now, break out your crayons and draw an image that represents the opposite of confidence.
Ok, a bit of creative expression here. What does a state of low confidence look like to you? What color, texture, shape, and size is it? There are no rules here, just go with your intuition.
Strike a pose or put yourself into a position that demonstrates your brain and body when you do NOT feel confident.
Don't be shy. Imagine a time when your confidence was in the gutter. What body position best represents that? Now, how do you feel? Pretty crappy, right? Let’s fix that. (I call this Bullshift because we are shifting the B.S. in our heads!)
Now let’s do the opposite.
Do the same exercises, but tap into your confident self. Write about what confidence is to you by asking yourself the same questions, but with confidence in mind. Then, draw confidence, strike a confident pose. Become Wonder Woman or Superman!
Anchoring to your confidence.
Now you have some things to anchor your confidence to: your written definition, the drawing, and your super confident pose. Create some affirmations from your definition. Look at, and touch your drawing. Strike your pose and put everything into it!
How do you feel now? Better? Yup!
Next week I’m going to post about how to use your amazing intuitive abilities to tap into confidence. Please don’t say that you’re not intuitive, because we all are. Most people don’t know how to recognize it and therefore, don’t listen to their intuitive voice. Tune in next week to learn how! UPDATE: Here's the link to the newest intuition post!
Meanwhile, try on your confidence today. Go be amazing!